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According to a national study of 3,000 U.K. adults commissioned by Access Commercial Finance, Two-Thirds of women in the U.K. suffer from impostor syndrome at work.
Anxiety, negative self-talk, not feeling good enough, lack of self-confidence, dwelling on past mistakes are signs and symptoms of impostor syndrome.
As you can imagine, these feelings can destroy you and in consequence your business or career.
What is Impostor Syndrome?
In plain English, Impostor Syndrome is the persistent feeling of doubt about your accomplishments and abilities. There is a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.
People who suffer from Impostor Syndrome is convinced that they are a fraud, and don’t deserve all they have achieved. It’s common to incorrectly attribute their success to luck.
Impostor Syndrome has been recognized to affect both men and women, however, recent research revealed that men are 18% less likely to experience impostor syndrome.
Why does it happen?
The research on Impostor Syndrome indicates that the more successful you are, the more likely you are to be impacted by Impostor Syndrome.
Nobody is immune to these feelings, I feel like these more times than I care to admit.
What I do to overcome these horrible feelings is simple, I just try to help as many people as possible.
When you see that you are indeed able to help others, the impostor syndrome vanishes.
If you feel this way, no need to worry, it’s completely normal and you are in good company.
Maybe you’ve heard some of these names:
Penélope Cruz – “I feel every time I’m making a movie, I feel like [it’s] my first movie. Every time I have the same fear that I’m gonna be fired. And I’m not joking. Every movie, the first week, I always feel that they could fire me!” —CBS, February 2009
Sigourney Weaver – “Have I ever doubted myself? Have I ever not? I feel self-doubt whether I’m doing something hard or easy.” —Esquire, January 2010
Jodie Foster – On winning an Oscar for her role in The Accused: “I thought it was a big fluke. The same way when I walked on the campus at Yale, I thought everybody would find out, and then they’d take the Oscar back.” —60 Minutes, December 1999
Maya Angelou – “I have written 11 books, but each time I think, ‘uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.'”
Did these feelings keep these awesome ladies from achieving great things? No, it didn’t.
I want to share with you some tips that are going to help you overcome impostor syndrome.
Best Tips to overcome Impostor Syndrome
Tip 1: Focus on providing value
When you put all the effort on helping people you keep yourself busy, and when you’re doing something important there is no time for toxic thoughts.
Focus on solving other people problems will improve the way you think about yourself, ’cause you’re making a positive impact on somebody else.
There’s no better feeling than helping others to achieve their goals.
Tip 2: Trust the facts
Stop listening to the negative voice in your head. Listen to feedback. Other people are more objective about yourself than you.
If you take a moment and take a look around you, you’ll find a lot of positive feedback about yourself, and honey, that feedback is the real deal!
Tip 3: Put the focus off you
This is pretty much the same than the first tip, but I can’t stress this enough.
You need to stop thinking about you, this game it’s not about you.
I hate to say this but, you are not important, your community is important, your customers are important, not you.It's all about the value you provide and what you do to help others Click To Tweet
Tip 4: It’s OK to say I don’t know
It’s OK to don’t know things. When you say: “I don’t know” you’re being real, you’re being you.
People are tired of interact with corporates and automate systems, they want to talk to real people.
Don’t be scared of saying “I don’t know”. Being honest it not going to hurt your business, on the contrary, it’ll strengthen your relations.
Of course, this “I don’t know” needs be followed by research on your side to provide the required support.
Even being wrong is ok. The best sports players make mistakes sometimes, presidents are wrong all the time, it’s ok.
Losing is just part of the game. Just don’t make a big drama around it and keep working hard.
Tip 5: You play a big part in your success
Everything you have achieved is because you put the effort into it.
Think about it…
You made the most out of that moment… you said “yes” to the right opportunity… and even more hard you said “no” to that other thing.
Yes, luck is also important, but have you noticed that the harder you work the luckier you get (I think I read that somewhere)The harder you work, the luckier you get Click To Tweet
Success is not going to knock at your door for free, you have to fight for it.
It’s not luck, it’s you, your hard work and your willpower.
Tip 6: It’s impostor syndrome
When you identified impostor syndrome, everything becomes easier.
Simple but powerful… It’s just something a lot of people experiment and you can fix it.
Tip 7: Stop comparing yourself to others
This is extremely harmful, you don’t know others as you think you do.
You don’t know the struggle behind the success, all you know is what they want you to know.
You’re just filling the gap between what they share and how you think they get there… your assumptions… your mind is playing you.
Turn Facebook off, move away from Instagram… work hard and stick to your plan, stop jumping at every new shining strategy.
You can’t be wrong by truly being who you are.
The big take away
Move into action and put the focus off you. There is no room for impostor syndrome when you’re helping others with their struggles.
Have you ever suffer from Impostor Syndrome? If yes, what did you do to overcome it?
Leave a comment and let me know!
I wish you happiness, love and the courage to live your life according to your priorities ♥
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